Psychology Today:What do you think is the most troubling general misconception about introverts?
Dr. Laurie Helgoe:Wow — it’s hard to choose. I am very troubled by the tendency to define introverts by what they lack. Introversion is a preference, not a fallback plan. Introverts like being introverts. We are drawn to ideas, we are passionate observers, and for us, solitude is rich and generative. Think of all that goes on in the playground of solitude: daydreaming, reading, composing, meditating — and just being, writing, calculating, fantasizing, thinking, praying, theorizing, imagining, drawing/painting/sculpting, inventing, researching, reflecting. You get the idea.
I like what he said about solitude being generative here. I think a lot of my friends don't understand that I simply CAN'T be with them 24 hours. I need some time alone to regenerate from being with them, as bitchy as that might sound. Which doesn't mean I don't love/like them.
I love my time alone. In fact, I'm extremely weary of people who NEED to be with someone all the time, or need constant attention. I see it as a sign of weakness. I am strong enough, confident enough, and comfortable enough with myself to get along on my own. I love my friends and need them in my life, but their place in my life is seperate from my place in my own life, but my appreciation for them is greater than anything else I hold dear to heart. It's my own choice, a definition of who I am, NOT a character flaw.
“Fate is like a strange, unpopular restaurant, filled with odd waiters who bring you things you never asked for and don’t always like.”— Lemony Snicket, Horseradish: Bitter Truths You Can’t Avoid (via yandere)
sweetsforest said: ohh for folk, the decemberists are good, as is jaymay and m.ward! yeah i’m kinda bad at finding new music too haha it’s so hard most of the time. bugs bunny is an awesome role model, though :)
Yay, thanks for the recs! I used to listen to the Decemberists, but totally forgot about them! /too lazy to find music herself
When you are young, you think it’s going to be solved by love. But it never is. Being close — as close as you can get — to another person only makes clear that impassable distance between you.’
If being in love only made people more lonely, why would everyone want it so much?’
Because of the illusion. You fall in love, it’s intoxicating, and for a little while you feel like you’ve actually become one with the other person. Merged souls and so on. You think you’ll never be lonely again.